February is the month of love – a time for Valentine’s Day and remembering love – emphasizing the importance of love in our lives.It’s not very unusual for us to fail to put 2 & 2 together, but love and grief are intimately related. You can’t have one without the other. You do not grieve unless you love and the risk of love involves the inevitability of grief. We should remember this relationship. It will help us to be able to grieve more purposefully when we realize its source is love. It will help us to love more fully when we realize that love will result in grief and yet the eternity of love is found in our grief and remembering forever. When we love, we never forget and we are able to imagine the idea of eternity and life everlasting. The double-sided coin of grief and love are the two elements of understanding Eternity and Everlasting life – neither exists without love and its counterpart grief.
This year in February, we celebrate 50 years of the introduction of the Beatles to America. Their legacy is their songs of love. One particular song touches this two sided coin –
In My Life
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before.
I know I’ll often stop and think about them,
In my life I love you more.
In my life I love you more