Grief is a part of who we are and we never want to hurry it; however, the holidays won’t wait – we need some help to survive them.  Actually the holidays are grief – celebrating them includes laughter (joy), solemnity (hope), reflection (peace), and remembering (love).  Utilize the holidays as tools of grief in helping you heal – by fully experiencing them. Don’t force the emotions, let them come… there will be all the tools we need in the different places, people, work we do, and attitude adjustment of the holidays to help us find meaning in them.  So join with the Wisemen to find a star of meaning this holiday.