Experiences in giving back shared by Home Hospice WTX volunteer, Steve Goff

Home Hospice WTX Volunteer, Steve Goff

In January of 2007, Steve Goff applied to become a Home Hospice volunteer. He said he admired what hospice does, as his mother had recently been diagnosed with lung cancer, and that he wanted to give back.

“I didn’t know much about hospice, I watched how they took care of my mom and dad, and was really taken by their love and care.”
Home Hospice volunteers possess a wide variety of talent and experience, and Steve is no exception. He has been a photography professor at Odessa College since 1984, and was recognized this year as “Outstanding Educator of the Year.” He serves on the boards of the Odessa Council for the Arts & Humanities and the Texas Photographic Society. There’s no doubt his gentle approach of respect and understanding has touched many lives.

As a hospice advocate, he makes sure to include his experiences in conversations within the classroom.

“I’m really honest, it’s really emotional. Some students say its special that someone cares enough to do that.”

In August of 2014, the Davidson family requested Home Hospice’s volunteer photographer to take a few family photos. As a hospice patient, Mr. Davidson and his wife spent two afternoons with Steve. Today, Mary keeps the photo of her husband in her living room.

In a recent visit, Mary and Steve reminisced over the time they spent together.

“It was a wonderful thing, we appreciated it more than you’ll ever know,” said Mary.

Their daughter Mary Anne works for a hospice in New Mexico, and continues to stay in contact with Steve, asking for advice on how to help her own volunteers provide a connection with the families they serve. There is no better testimonial than that.

Steve says his role as a volunteer may not be for everybody, but that when there is a connection, it’s a beautiful thing. He hopes sharing this story encourages more people to ask for his services.
“I feel so proud when I see one of my photographs with a family, I’m so honored by it. I feel like I’ve made a contribution and that’s what carries me through.”

Capturing candid moments and meaningful images of patients and families is just one way Home Hospice volunteers make a profound difference in our community. If you would like to become part of our team, don’t hesitate to let us know. Call (432) 580-9990 today.

A Good Word for the Innkeeper

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Way back in 1981, an article with this same title was published in a periodical from an abstract of a sermon preached by Dr. Gordon Clinard, former professor of Bible at Hardin Simmons University in 1968. His point was that the Innkeeper who is remembered as the “no room” guy from the Christmas Story may have been given too bad a rap. Our versions of the Christmas Story include the nativity with the Holy Family, shepherd, kings, and angels in the stable. What if they had rented a king-sized bed at the Holiday Inn? What kind of a picture would that be? Instead, with knowing nothing about who this pregnant woman was, or her child, he did what he could. He gave them the stable to stay in, and did what his heart told him…what God told him. His little became much… to the greatest story ever told.

You and I know a lot about this Child. We have the Biblical record, the history and traditions of the Christian Faith, and the testimony of millions through history. However, have we done more? Do we provide acknowledgment on a “holiday” and then “drag the tree to the curb”? What have we done for the one who came to deliver us? Jesus never asked anyone to give what they do not have; only “what you could.”

When your life is full of trouble, grief, or worry – be patient with the people around you this season who have what seems to be trivial concerns. Their real need is great to them. A little time, advice and attention may bring great joy where otherwise there would have been sadness and sorrow. Stop and give a little time and God will give you the words, and take care of the pressing concerns around you. Believe that God has sent one of His “little ones” your way and that’s why they are talking to you. Do what you can, what God tells you to do, and believe the little will become great.

Dr. Jimmy Braswell
Chaplain/Home Hospice

A Note to Say: Thank You to Mother

A Note to Say: Thank You to Mother

Mom, I wish I had words to tell you how much you mean to me.
I am the person I am today, because you let me be.

Your unconditional love made me happy, strong, and secure.
Your teaching and example made me confident, mature.

In the entire world, there is no other mother better than my own.
You’re the best and wisest person, Mom, I have ever known.

Thanks to all the mothers who cared for us, whether you are with us here today or you are with the Lord in Heaven. We just want to say to you on this day – Thank you for all the love and care that you showered upon us in life.

Chaplain Donnie Rollie
Home Hospice

Word War II veteran story & Home Hospice Patient

Word War II Veteran

It has all the makings of a box office thriller… military man-CIA operative- near death escapes-multiple romances. But it is not a fabrication; it’s the story of Staff Sergeant Karl Langland. And unless we take the time to listen, these stories will surely fade away.

“I’ll tell my stories to anyone who will listen, but I won’t be the one to write them down.”

And that’s how our adventure began. Karl Langland is a Home Hospice patient. He and his new bride Bobbie eagerly await visits from our volunteer team, including Linda & Rafiki the poodle. It took about five minutes before the stories started. And we were all hooked.

Mr. Langland was born on May 14, 1922, his parents – Karl Sr. & Mina Ruby. He had five brothers and sisters. It was a “slim-riches to rags” story where his father worked hard at the local sawmill and then the farm. The Great Depression lived up to its name.

Mr. Langland graduated from Rice Lake High School on May 28, 1941. He then entered the University of Wisconsin and finished his first year, studying agriculture. The government enacted a program to test cows for bangs disease and he took the job!

“My love life was rocky at that point, and the draft was on the horizon, so on September 2nd, 1942 I chose to enlist in the Army.”

He selected to go into radio school, but his ears were not good enough to take down code… so he became a mechanic. Then he was shipped to Boca Raton, Florida to go to radar school. Follow along closely… because then he decided to go to aerial gunnery school… specializing in the B-26 & B-29 bombers.

In 1943 he was shipped to England, eventually completing 13 missions. At some point he had the time to begin a courtship, marry his first wife Dorothy, and have their first child… Then they all went to Japan where he was stationed at the airbase. Two more children later, Langland’s family began helping the local missionaries… he found they had a lot of needs,

“They operated along the bone!”

And the commissary had a lot of supplies! In total he spent 4 years in Japan, helping to begin local churches. It is clearly evident this was a career hi-light, but he tells us,

“I didn’t blow no horn about it with the Army!”

From Japan, his next step was back to the States – to Denver and Chicago, as an Army recruiter. It wasn’t “his thing” and didn’t last long.

After receiving an anonymous letter indicating there was a great need for the variety and level of his expertise, he was sent to Washington, DC and was declared for the CIA. They wanted men from all legs of service, men with a clean record who could think on their feet… the missions were to be kept secret.

(But he shared a couple of juicy “life or death” stories…)

“While in the Chicago area I was attacked with a gun in my back and told not to turn around. They took me out and beat me near to death and then threw me into a coal bin, leaving me for dead. I survived and crawled onto the building, twisted the wires to cut off the building’s power. The power company came to investigate, and found me. They took me to the nearest Naval hospital. But because I had no papers, they didn’t know what to do with me… so they just left me outside, and would check on me every once in a while. They could tell I was in the military, and figured out how to call my commanding officer for directions… later an Army captain was sent out to get me.”

“While in California, a European sounding guy called me up and said ‘I got something for ya!’ He took me out the boondocks in the woods somewhere. He parked his car, I parked my car. He had a little light, which I followed. All of a sudden the light disappeared, and when I got to where it went out, there had been a bonfire reduced to coals. I felt the heat come in from my nostrils and I knew I had been duped. I fell in. The hole was about 4 feet deep, and had been dug with roots all up along the sides. The coals and hot sand melted and got into my shoes, my feet were burnt and swollen, I could not get the shoes back on… I crawled to my car in bare feet and drove to the Riverside Police Department. They took me out to the airbase. I was there a few days, and they let me go home on quarters for about a month. I had nothing to do but watch TV.”

Despite the near death experiences, Mr. Langland had been in it so long that the smart thing to do was to stick it out until retirement as a Staff Sergeant in 1970… a 28 year military career.

Mr. Langland’s first wife became ill and eventually passed away in 1974. They had been living with his in-laws in Alabama. He still had school-aged children to raise. And that’s when he befriended a widower from across the street. Karl and Martha married on August 20, 1977. He worked as a security guard for a children’s home. He became a deacon at the local Baptist church, continuing his deep commitment to faith. Martha had been in poor health, surviving polio as a small child. They were together for about 30 years when she passed away.

During 2015, Mr. Langland was able to partake in an incredible program for our veterans – Honor Flight. He visited Washington DC with some of his peers… but noticed a lonely gentleman sitting on one of the benches near the memorial site.

“It was Bob Dole. Just sitting there. So I thought, why not go sit with him. So we sat. And shared stories. Did you know he is missing an arm?” (Lost use of his arm)

Recently Mr. Langland developed friends through a resource called the “Good Old Times.” The way he tells it, people of his generation use it as an avenue to become pen pals. And through several twists, he began writing his new bride, Bobbie!

Bobbie says the servicemen’s ads were close to her heart. She sent Karl a “cheery note”… and then one day she received a phone call from him. They corresponded for about a year and a half. And then, Karl drove to Monahans, Tx to meet her.

“Her letters beguiled me!”

Karl and Bobbie married in July of 2016. Bobbie has found herself a real war hero. Mr. Langland has a devoted audience to tell his stories to… and although the stories are becoming more scrambled as he continues to tell them, Bobbie is quick to get him back on track.

As the future of our country’s military faces ups and downs, Mr. Langland says, without hesitation…

“I would probably do it all over again. It’s just part of who I am.”

And for that we are greatly indebted Staff Sergeant Langland. Thank you.

Lovingly Remembering By Jimmy Braswell / Chaplain

Love

Jimmy Braswell / Chaplain, Home Hospice

An old cliché says, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” – How is that then specifically?

I miss the sight of the body
I miss the sounds of the voice
I miss the feeling of comfort
You feel like home
I miss the look out of your eyes
Your flow across the room
Your ideas and reflections
Your journey – the circumstances of your life.

–These are the elements of loving, being in love… and when the person is not present, we miss them.

Perhaps that is why grief is the opposite side of the coin of love. Love should always be celebrated. Remembering (grieving) is an important (eternal) part of that. Valentine’s Day and all holidays are celebrations of what and whom we love. Spending time reflecting on all of the elements of love on the occasion of a birthday, anniversary, or holiday is the way we “handle” our grief and journey through it. Finding love is too beautiful an experience to ever forget. We are all given an infinite capacity to love and that’s why we hurt so deeply. It is an occasion to celebrate, to joy – which is not happiness – but much deeper.

Love is eternal and eternally beautiful. We incorporate it all into our journey – who we are. All of it is included in our present and future loving.

Volunteer glimpses

Volunteer Glimpses

It’s a fast-paced world. We are used to reading headlines… or posting things in 14 words or less… for some it’s snap-chatting, or tweeting andinsta-gramming. But every once in a while it’s necessary to stop and take it all in. That’s what makes watching Home Hospice volunteers “do their thing” so amazing! Whether they have one hour or 400 hours to give, you get that they recognize the importance of sharing their time and talent with others. In order to ensure patient privacy, it’s hard to share all the details, but know that I am always humbled by them… We can offer small glimpses though.

  • When a patient’s spouse looks you in the eyes and says, “I just hate it when it’s the Tuesday you don’t bring Rafi (our Patient Paws pup) to visit us.”
  • When a patient’s daughter calls to ask whether her father’s volunteer would be willing to be a pallbearer.
  • When a normally non-communicative nursing facility resident cries and tries to join in as we sing Amazing Grace.
  • When another nursing facility resident sings Christmas carols through his oxygen mask, determined to take part in the joy of the season.
  • When a patient’s wife says, “Thank you for sending us those beautiful cards in the mail every month, you don’t know how much they mean.”
  • When a patient’s daughter recognizes her father’s volunteer at his funeral, pulls the volunteer aside, and introduces her to everyone in the family, so they know the impact she had in their loved one’s life.
  • When a patient and his wife tell us it feels like the world has abandoned them, and ask, “When can you come back to visit with us again?”

These moments can fill a soul. It’s why we really mean it when we say – Home Hospice… It’s about living.

WILL THE REAL SANTA CLAUS PLEASE STAND UP

Santa Claus

Will the real Santa Claus please stand up? OK, here I am! Yep, I’m Santa! I’ve been Santa Claus since I started looking like him. An old cliché “You believe in Santa Claus, you are Santa Claus and then you look like Santa Claus” is true. And I love it. Every year the gigs become more numerous.  It doesn’t take very long. It takes more time to dress and undress in my homemade Santa suit then to do the Santa gigs.  All I have to do is show up – and sometimes because of the way I look, I don’t have to have a suit on.  Children often, while my beard is long, simply come over and sit on my lap and begin telling me what they want for Christmas.  But it’s natural and part of the journey.

The same is true of our grief. Our remembering and celebrating are both a part of the season and the journey. They simply “come” because of who we are and what we look like. I look like my father. As we come together during Christmas family remind me, and I remind them of my father – long now in the Kingdom of God, but still very missed. It’s simply part of the journey and like being Santa Claus, has simply become part of the new identity. I have learned to accept and even embrace my new identity in my grief and as Santa Claus.

You better watch out, you better not cry – ‘Cause Santa Claus is coming to town –

Merry Christmas,

Dr. Jimmy Braswell
Chaplain / Home Hospice… and Santa

Grief Share

Grief Share

It hurts to lose someone, and healing from your grief is a long, hard process. For the last nine years, Home Hospice has been partnering with local churches to offer the support program called GriefShare.

GriefShare is a warm caring environment, where people walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. Groups meet weekly to help you face things like isolation, confusion, anger and hurt.

Renee Roberts first attended GriefShare at the suggestion of her mother in August of 2011. Renee’s father had passed away several months before.

“I was having a lot of anxiety and panic attacks and my mom thought it would be a good thing for me, but she did not realize everything she would get out of it as well.”

GriefShare leaders understand how you feel and have a real concern for individuals experiencing the grief of loss… helping them to begin to gain closure, and discover hope for the future.

“I feel like God put me there, I have met so many people and I have watched so many transformations… there’s people I know who have gone back four and five times, and we have grown to be friends.”

In fact, Renee participated in three full 13-week sessions, and has been volunteering at every session since!

“I’ve seen people come in that can’t even talk about their loved one, or mention their name without breaking down…. Come in on the first session and do nothing but cry, and then they open up a little bit more, and by the thirteenth week, it’s amazing to see the progress… they laugh, they share stories, there’s a glimmer of happiness in them – it’s amazing!”

You’ll probably feel nervous about going to GriefShare the first time. Those feelings go away quickly for most people as you begin to understand you are not alone in this grief journey.

“Some people have family telling them – you need to get over this, it’s been long enough!- At GriefShare they are supported by people who say you can grieve as long as you need to, and nobody’s grief is the same. They keep coming back for the support.”

Again, it hurts to lose someone… find help at GriefShare.

Sessions are free to attend, and begin Tuesday, August 23rd from 6-9pm at St. Andrew Cumberland Presbyterian Church, 1415 N. Grandview in Odessa. Please call Home Hospice (432) 580-9990 for more information.

I Just Want to Say Thanks

I Just Want to Say Thanks

“True patriotism springs from a belief in the dignity of the individual, freedom and equality not only for Americans but for all people on earth, universal brotherhood and good will, and a constant and earnest striving toward the principles and ideals on which this country was founded.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

As we prepare to reflect on what our service men and women in the Armed Forces have done for the freedom of our country, it is time we salute them with a thank you and remain supportive of all the work that has been accomplished in order to keep us free. We have to look at the sacrifice that these men and women have taken, along with their families, and encourage them to continue, to not give up on their dreams nor lose sight of who they are. They will face many challenges on a daily basis… I leave you with this:

He/she who holds up the ideal that whoever desires to become great among you let him/her be your servant. Strong leaders don’t have to burn down the town and trample the citizens to display their leadership potential.

Donnie Rollie
Chaplain/Home Hospice

Unshed tears: Andrews Butterfly Release & Family Celebration 2016

It was 54 degrees and many of us hunkered down close to the building in hopes the warmth would provide a little shelter as we released our butterflies. I sensed a gentle spirit and edged closer to a wonderful man whose eyes were filled with unshed tears, and whose hands softly held the opened envelope containing the monarch he had come to release on behalf of his wife Bobbie. She had passed just one year ago and they had spent 44 years together. His church had given him a plant in honor of his wife last year, and he shared that he just could not get that plant to grow, try as he might. But now, as some time has passed, and his heart had begun to heal, he noticed (7) new green shoots… the Lord’s number, he believed… a sign that Bobbie was with him. As he lingered to tell the story, the monarch climbed its way to the lapel of his jacket, then wound its way around his neck. Had its arms been longer, I know it would have been the most amazing hug! We gently captured the beautiful creature into a dome-covered cup. The butterfly was going home to be released on the plant, combining symbols of hope, and perhaps allowing their date to last just a little longer.